God created us for intimacy. He designed us with desire to be intimate and to have relationships with one another, most importantly Him. He designed us in such a way that it is innate to look for relationship, but that search can also cause us to go toward the wrong direction, if we do not know what we are searching for.
Many of us search for significance in our friends, marriage, and other relationship to validate who we are in our lives, but that search tends to leave a void within us that leaves us feeling empty and incomplete. What are we searching for? Who are we searching for? Why do we keep searching?
Countless times, you see people jumping from one relationship to another. Looking for love yet never finding it and going through the emotional rollercoaster of life. God did not design us for that, but we allow ourselves to go through it because we are still trying to create fullness and self-worth without him.
When we go from one relationship to another it only cause pain. God did not design us to go from one relationship to another. He created us to wait and to be patient for the right one. While we are waiting, He wants us to have a relationship and intimacy with him. As we do this, we begin to find fulfillment and satisfaction it Him. However, when we find ourselves searching outside of God for intimacy we never find it. We must focus on our relationship with the Lord, and when we do this, everything else will come. (In His timing of course.) We were created for intimacy and to be complete in that journey. But often we find ourselves searching and looking for something or someone to fill that void.
There is a saying I have heard many times in my church, “Fish needs water to survive, but water does not need fish to survive.” In other words, we need God to survive, but God does not need us. Let us be clear, God wants us and he loves us, but he does not thrive on us for His well-being. However, we as people need Him whether we realize it or not. God created us for intimacy. He designed us with the desire to be intimate with him. The reason we crave relationships and friendship is that deep down we desire to be intimate with our Creator.
It is sad to see many people try to fill their loneliness in their lives with people, and when there are people around them, they still feel lonely. It is sad to see how many believe that next boy or girl is going fulfill them, or believe that marriage is going to complete them. Then the next thing they find out is that they are still empty and incomplete. They left out an important ingredient. That ingredient is God.
In order to have any successful intimate relationship, we must learn how to have an intimate successful relationship with God. Through this, we are able and ready to have true intimacy with others. God did design us to be intimate, but first we need to be intimate with Him. When we learn this, having intimacy in our lives with others becomes easier. It sets a standard for us on how we should be treated or how we treat others.

